@gaypraha2:

Hyacinthos: the question wasn't "straight relationship vs gay relationship", but how one who's bi can find happiness in a world made for str8 and gays and deal with the social pressure that forces us to be either gay or str8.

He asks:

I am living that gay lifestyle but I can't help but think. Would I be happier straight(ish)

The answer to the question is almost certainly; "no, you would not be happy living the straight lifestyle. You will struggle finding as high quality a partner as you would as a gay man, the children you have with her will destroy your soul and you will consider or actually attempt to kill yourself when she eventually divorces you and takes all your money."

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On a funny side note : "there's been a lot of fuss for a while about divorce rates going down which is only good news until you consider that this is mostly due to the fact that less and less people are getting married" …rates are percentage... they arent getting up or down based on how many items there is in a sample.

What the data shows is that while the percentage of people staying married is increasing—still 50% is an atrocious number, lets not forget that bit—the percentage of people getting married at all has sharply decreased. So only the people most likely to stay together are getting married at all which skews the numbers. Now consider that the intent of my post was to show that straight marriage is a shit investment; if only an ever decreasing percentage of people are actually getting married and even those that really want to be married have equal odds of being divorced, you're better off getting a cat instead.

In other words, imagine a world were only 1% of people get married but they stay together 90% of the time. Divorce rates are at an all time low but the institution of marriage itself is now irrelevant and obviously undesirable to the overwhelming majority of the population.

Maybe, just maybe, if the rates are going down it's multi-factorial : the economic situation makes that you think twice getting a divorce if you can't afford 2 rents for the kid and such…

That directly supports my actual point: straight marriages is like playing Russian roulette with three bullets in the chamber.

OK, here's some interesting data for you:

Research shows that not only do gay men deal with stress responses better than straight ones, in tolerant societies gay men are actually happier than straight ones.

There's also the fact that gay relationships seem to be on average more fulfilling.

About 50% of straight marriages end in divorce and women initiate 70% of them. North American men going through divorce are eight times more likely than the women to commit suicide. And in case you think there's a glimmer of hope; there's been a lot of fuss for a while about divorce rates going down which is only good news until you consider that this is mostly due to the fact that less and less people are getting married. Well, less men. Women want to get married as much ass ever, straight men are having none of it—there's a reason for that.

Turns out having kids is one of the worst things you can do for a relationship. Children make people miserable. This is further corroborated by the third linked study above which shows that childless straight couples and gay ones have the best relationships.

Women rate 80% of men as being "below average". Mathematical impossibility aside this reveals the fact that you're going to be working a lot harder to secure a mate if you're a heterosexual man—nevermind actually keeping them per the divorce statistics above. Oh, and to go with the above: women are hypergamous while men are generally not. Combine the two and this means that on average you'll need to be significantly more attractive or wealthier to get the attention of a potential partner of equal quality as a heterosexual man than you would as a gay one.

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If you're lucky enough to be living in a civilised country, then I say you were given a gift by being attracted to men. I'm not saying your relationships as a gay guy will end reflecting the traditional arrangements, there's not getting around the fact that social and sexual dynamics between gay men are different. There's a reason why open relationships are so common among us. But as far as nature goes, the cards you were handed were pretty damn good.