I very much agree with your thoughts here. I have found that the younger guys in their late teens and early 20's, can be attracted to older men anywhere from their 30's to the 50's, usually either because they have "father complex issues" and require a strong, masculine, mentoring/coaching personality in their lives [but it is not long term - it is a phase that can last a few months, a few years, at best as the person becomes more confident in being gay] vs. those who truly have a "polar" desire and attraction by nature (Polar = older men, grey/white hair, etc.) and are "hard wired" in their sexual desire and attraction to be with them. The majority of the relationships that do occur, I have found, are based upon the "father complex" element, and thus do not last. The "polar" relationship, are fewer, but are very real and last. Boiling down to Chemistry, as you note. - Speaking with authority. haha
Someone else mentioned that this entire topic was an over-generalization and I have to agree to an extent….but for the sake of debate (and I love a good debatable discussion), I will have to admit that the aforementioned quote is mostly true, and this is coming from a guy that began a relationship, at the age of 24, with a man (who is still my husband to this day) that is 15 years older than I....so it's unsettling for me to think that people might believe I am influenced by some deep seeded emotional fracture and not the more endearing possibility that two individuals can find all they are looking for in another person, regardless of their age. Now I won't pretend that this is always the case, nor that most younger adults are capable of processing the true nature of their decisions when it comes to relationships or anything that requires true commitment on their behalf....flights of fancy come to mind, with little regards to the future and its inevitable demise....that sounds harsh now that I've said it....lol.....generalizations may not be fair or acceptable when it comes down it to, but there's a reason that we can call them generalizations....it's majority....shrugs Of course, there's exceptions to every rule and assumption, and to those exceptions are where I like to look....if only to believe that love transcends all :twg:....laughs at my attempt at sogginess
I hate to think that in all my existential contemplation I have chosen to ignore or am unable to realize exactly what he said, most age separated relationships are caused by "father complex issues"....well that would definitely make this awkward on my part.....haha....but as it stands my husband and I have been together for almost 6 years, with no foreseeable end in sight, he's my best friend, my lover, and I don't feel compelled to rip his head off (unlike with others of my own age)....HA....the short hand of this long winded speech is, it's probably 50/50....lol....half of them are making up for some internal deficit and the other half are just older than their true years and trying to make the best of it.....
On the other hand I might just be eccentric and should probably stick to what I'm good at..... :bj2:
