Can gay people become straight?
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This is a tough question to answer with certainty, since “proving” whether someone’s attractions have changed is sort of like proving whether they were abducted by aliens. It could have happened, but if it did, the only way to know is by taking their word for it. After all, no one can really know how another person feels inside.
If we do take people at their word, what we find is this: Most gay people have tried to become straight at some point in their lives. Many gay Christians have spent years of their lives praying for God to make them straight, and a lot of us have combined prayer with Christian therapy, support groups, psychological treatments, or other methods of seeking change. Some have even undergone controversial therapies like shock treatment, hoping it would help them become straight.
Today, there are a number of “ex-gay organizations,” which teach that gays can become straight. You may have heard the testimony of ex-gays, people who say they’ve changed from gay to straight, usually with God’s help.
The term “ex-gay” can be a bit misleading, however. Often, people who say they “came out of homosexuality” mean only that they stopped engaging in homosexual sex. They consider themselves “ex-gay” because of a change in their behavior, but they continue to be attracted to the same sex. (This is sort of like a prostitute who becomes fed up with her unfulfilling lifestyle and chooses to give up sex. She is still heterosexual, but she is no longer engaging in heterosexual intercourse. She didn’t “come out of heterosexuality.”)
Some ex-gays marry a member of the opposite sex, and use this as the “proof” that they have changed. But many gay people have also married a member of the opposite sex and even raised a family in an attempt to change their inner feelings. Even so, on the inside, they still remain attracted to their own sex. They’re still gay.
The vast majority of ex-gays admit to continuing same-sex attractions, even though they may not say so in their public testimonies. There are a few, however, who claim to have gone from 100% gay to 100% straight. It is possible, then, that an orientation change may be possible for a small percentage of the population. On the other hand, critics will point out that several ex-gays who claimed to have become straight were later caught in compromising situations, demonstrating that they hadn’t always been honest about their innermost feelings.
Ultimately, of course, none of us can say for sure whether it may be possible for some people to change their feelings, or if so, who can change and how much.
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According to Kinsey, the pioneer of psychosexuality, just as genes turn on and off, one can goes through phases of gay to straight to gay. Not all attributes present themselves immediately or inure for the lenght of your lifetime.
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if you are in a controlled environment and that you will choose to be straight you may do it and be straight.
for me, i believe it to be a choice.
there are some friends who were gay and now straight. dont know what happened but it just shows, it is possible.
i have a friend who's been in relationship with men all his life, then a girl came along… then he became addicted to girls...
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I don't think it's possible.
You can suppress your gayness, but you can't change it. This is proven by all the "ex gays" that are still gay.
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Maybe they just didn't know what they were before and some people do not realize it is not whom you sleep with that determines whether you are gay or straight.
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People are very different and there is hardly a formula which will work for every single person. But, generally, I don't believe it is possible for gay person to become straight, or vice versa. It is not a choice, it's who you are.
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if there is i am sure everyone would want to do it..
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Genes can be altered and genes control everything.
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]I'm actually not sure about that…
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If you haven't read yet, I recommend you to take a look at "Gay, Straight, and the Reason Why: The Science of Sexual Orientation" by Dr. Simon Levay. It helped me understand how sexual orientation is determined. He is a neuroscientist so the book also has a biological perspective.
To my knowledge, there is not a clear explanation how some person is gay, there are just theories about it. Some say it is purely genetics, others claim environmental effects should be considered etc. For example, according to a study from the book, homosexual people were exposed to some hormones and chemicals in the womb during a critical period so that some particular regions of the brain are formed and function like the opposite sex but some other regions don't. However, there is also a genetical tendency whether this "malformation" can occur. Anyway, I cannot say too much since I am not a true expert in neurology and psychology, but I recommend Levay's book.
I don't think someone calling himself/herself gay becomes straight.
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People are very different and there is hardly a formula which will work for every single person. But, generally, I don't believe it is possible for gay person to become straight, or vice versa. It is not a choice, it's who you are.
There are some theories of sexual orientation being genetic. Plus, there are "conversion" therapies out there but the most that does is traumatize the patient. It's a horrible thing. If only people could just embrace what they are….oh well
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If only people could just embrace what they are….oh well
If someone feels unhappy he or she will try to change things, for better or worse. If everyone would accept what they are then there would never be progress. Those who are skinny would always stay skinny. Those who are bad in math would simply accept it and fail the test. Those who are straight would embrace their sexuality and never try to experiment. Aren't transexuals the perfect example for this?
But the question remains. I firmly believe that gay people cannot become straight. I also think that majority wouldn't want to change their orientation. Gay pride anyone? Praising mutual attraction of two men and rubbing it to everyone's face? However, if there was a switch button to become straight I'd smash it without hesitation. There is more to life than one's sexual orientation, but there's also the easy and the hard way.
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I'm not entirely convinced that being gay is a choice. Ever since I can remember, I have always had very gay thoughts, which always surrounded men. It's just not something that I've ever really put any thought into, even long before I knew about things like puberty. These are part of the reasons why I do not think that it's possible to simply "turn straight" or to otherwise choose what is and is not right for you in that regard. I think it's something that's pre-determined somehow. There are theories about the prediction of a child's sexual orientation based on the levels of estrogen and testosterone that they are exposed to during the pregnancy and in the early developmental stages. I think the research on that seems more promising and makes things lean towards it somehow being pre-determined, rather than being a matter of "genes" or "choice".
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Some very interesting psychological studies have discovered two things about human sexuality that seem to suggest that who you're attracted to is neither a choice, nor does it have anything to do with genetics.
The first one is the discovery that there are measurable differences in different regions of the brain between heterosexual men and heterosexual women. For example, in women, the corpus callosum is much more developed when compared to men. When they added homosexual men and women to this research, they found that homosexual men's brains structurally resembled heterosexual women's brains more closely and vice versa for homosexual women and heterosexual men.
The second one is that brain development during critical periods, such as within your mother's womb, as well as reproductive organ development, is triggered through hormonal changes of the mother. One reason why we have babies being born with seemingly ambiguous genitalia is due to hormonal imbalances. My sister's third son, for example, was born with ambiguous genitalia. Only through DNA testing did they find out he was a boy, so they didn't get all cut happy with the scalpel. But the doctors did notice some hormonal imbalances during the pregnancy that they tried to compensate for by giving her estrogen supplements.
These two pieces of research have created some interesting theories that your sexuality is determined in your mother's womb based on the available quantities and ratios between certain hormones as they are transferred to you from your mother. Some theorists believe that some women develop a sort of immunity (for lack of a better word) to testosterone and floods her system with even more estrogen to compensate while others ability to produce estrogen becomes suppressed. If a baby's bloodstream has higher quantities of estrogen flooding into his brain, it's likely to trigger some developmental and structural growth in some regions while suppressing it in others and causing these measurable differences between men's and women's brains.
If this theory proves to be true, and your sexual preferences are linked to structural differences in your brain, it would indicate that your sexuality is not a choice and not something you can change.
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No.
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Me too. I love myself
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you can't become straight,
just like you can't turn a straight into gay~ -
Is anybody reading this thread Left-handed? Were you shamed and pushed to use your right hand in school and maybe by family members? I did, and it was ridiculous. There's no rational reason behind it, only somebody somewhere said it was wrong and evil and it's been passed down for centuries. I feel the same way about trying to make a gay/bi person straight, it's ridiculous.
Can I as a gay person become straight? I don't want to, I'm exactly as I should be. I think the same goes for everybody else. It's sad this is even a question (not an attack on the op, just frustrated this is even an issue).
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I don't believe so, the max that can hapen is that the person was actually bi
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