Gay problem. please help.
ok so i have been hanging out with my lesbian friends reana and michelle a lot lately. they live at michelle's brother's house billy who is married to annah. on random nights billy and annah invite over their friends bobby and jenn, who are dating. i've been over at this house a lot and have become friends with all of them. just about 3 days ago reana told bobby and billy i was gay but they didn't have a problem with it. they said i was still cool. bobby asked why i haven't hit on him yet (jokingly?).
so the other night it was my birthday night party there. some time during the night me and my friend josh i had invited over was watching bobby play guitar hero in the living room. everyone else was gone. now just so everyone knows… bobby is really hot. josh jokes around a lot and he said something like "just cause your a homosexual jesse...blah blah blah."
i said something like "yeah so that doesn't have to do with anything"
then out of no where bobby says, "it's alright dude... i'm bi. i like boys."
i said, "no you are not. you are such a liar."
he said "yeah i am dude. you don't have believe me but i am. just cause i'm with jenn doesn't mean i don't look at boys too. no one else knows so don't say anything."
now why would he say that? it's all that has been on my mind. he told me he was bi and he likes guys and he knows i'm gay. is he trying to do something or what? i'm so confused. please help me. what do i do?
he sounds hot , what does he look like? lol anyway even if he tries to do anything with you i dont think itd be right of you to help him cheat on his girlfriend yea thats my thought anyway
Well I think that the cards are now on the table…..Talk to him privately, and find out why he decided to tell you
I'm guessing he just said that so you feel more comfortable around him or whatever, I mean if he has a girlfriend I don't think he'd be interested. Unless he's the cheating type.
Don't overcomplicate things.
Just ask him privately and when he's (or you) not drunk
i think bobby was hitting on you. he is trying to let u know that he would fuck if u let him. i also think that he is with his girlfriend because he had no choice ( a closet case). I know it's not the best advice, but help him come out. maybe that's what he wants. His girlfriens wilol suffer but it's bobby's fault, not entirely yours. If u r ready to unleash drama, go and do what i say…. at the end, u will have the HOT bobby to urself.... ;D ;D
**I would so have a field day with this!
I think there is too much thinking on this. It is plain and simple- He obviously Just wanted to share his secret with someone he knows will understand. Do not over-think it.
If something sexual happens, go with it- it takes 2 to tango. If he isn't getting it from her then her loss is your advantage. I might get booed for this because it will be misunderstood- but you are young and only live once. Do not regret chances you never took!
Then again, maybe a 3 way? lol**
from a bisexual, these are the possibilities:
1. he is thankful that finally he has a close friend to hang out with who would understand his being half-gay. in my experience it is harder for a bisexual to find gays and straights to accept us. the gays would think we are all in denial and the straights would live in fear that if we would not snatch their girlfriends, we'd definitely molest them or something!
(sorry for using the words "snatch" and "girlfriend" in the same sentence in a gay forum… LOL)
i think he's just basically thankful to finally have someone to talk to about gay/bi stuff.
2. he could be just joking. i have more straight friends than gay/bi friends and they tend to joke a lot about these things when they are already comfortable with you.
majority of the times, they don't mean it seriously.
the open-minded straight guys even have a lot of questions about gay/bi people (albeit, most of those questions seem stupid to us)
3. he could be attracted to you and was lightly flirting with you or giving you enough hints to see if you like him too without sounding/appearing like a desperate man-slut!
these are just the possibilities that i can think of.
the wrong thing for you to do is to assume any one of these and act accordingly.
the right thing to do and the decision that will not damage your friendship would be to talk to him about it.